The breakthrough is the easy part
The hardest part about spiritual growth is not the initial expansion; it's holding the vibration of the expansion in your everyday life as your new normal.
This is why you can feel amazing after a workshop, course or book and have an awesome breakthrough, but then not long after it's over slip back into old patterns.
It sucks and it's messy, but there it is.
So what can we do about this? If you're anything like me, you're not going to like the answer...
Structure. Yep, you need to implement some daily routine to keep you in alignment. OR, if you're a control freak and you have too much structure, some of that structure will need to be torn down to make room for your wild spirit to come through.
How can you tell what to keep and what to let go of (or at the very least modify)? That part requires keen observation. I don't want you to pay attention to how you feel right before you do the thing in your day...Instead, pay attention to how you feel after you've done the thing.
Ask questions like these:
Do I feel more like me in some way now that I've done this? (More fulfilled, relaxed, happy, peaceful, etc.)
Example 1: You might resist meditating, but feel great afterwards. That's something you would keep in your day and prioritize.
Example 2: You might exercise and feel horrible afterwards, which is something you would need to modify (at least)...it could be the type of exercise you're choosing, the time of day, whether you ate first, etc. Be curious and uncover what would make exercise fun for you again. If you can't find any way to modify it and have it be fun, then your body might need a break.
Is my energy lighter now that I've done it? (Or does it feel heavier...are you more moody now or irritated?)
Example: You watch your favorite dramatic tv show, but you feel icky after. You're kind of snarky and there's an uncomfortable feeling in the pit of your stomach. You might want to eliminate or reduce how much dramatic tv you consume. It's not that drama is bad, because it's not (I LOVE me a good drama), it's about gauging if it's a contribution to you or not. I've had times where I watched dramatic tv and felt great afterwards and I've experienced the opposite too.
Did I get any real sense of fulfillment out of that? (Or do I feel like I just wasted my time and energy?)
Example: You scrolled facebook for 2 hours and afterward felt worse than before you began.
Start with those 3 questions...if you answer yes to at least 2 of those questions, then there's a good chance it's a good daily ritual for you. If you didn't answer yes to at least 2, then it's time to reevaluate that daily habit.
First, see if there's a way you can just modify it to be more fun for you. If that doesn't work then consider eliminating it altogether (at least for a little while) and see how you feel.
Activities that leave you feeling good at the end of them (even if they were hard to start) are cup fillers because they, well, fill your cup so to speak. Activities that leave you feeling weird, empty, or off are cup drainers since they actually sap your energy.
Cup fillers = high vibes
Cup drainers = low vibes
We can only have so many cup drainers in our life, so when we make a breakthrough and raise our vibes nice and high, something in our daily life has gotta go to hold that space. We have so many habits that we think are serving us in some way, but if you really take a look at them you might be surprised by what you find.
Now, to further complicate things...everything I just talked about are activities. You also need to look at the dominant thoughts and feelings you're generating in a day as well.
Something to consider...
Thoughts are electric.
Emotions are magnetic.
That means we are electromagnetic.
In other words, we are energy, we are vibration.
What you think and feel determine what you attract...so if you're bad ass enough to attract in a major breakthrough (nice job), giving your time, energy and effort to the things that leave you feeling sexy, electrified, joyful, satisfied, happy, peaceful and all the other lovely things are the only ones worthy of you now.
By examining and changing your daily habits and rituals to reflect and support your evolution you will hold your breakthrough so you don't slip right back into the muck.
Consistent aligned daily action is the key to where you truly desire to be.
I know, it annoyed the sweet bejezus out of me when I realized it too. Hahaha
But nevertheless, now is a great time to re-evaluate your daily habits! Being genuinely open and curious about how you're spending your time and energy is a beautiful form of self care.
If you agree, please comment below, "Now is a great time."
And if you're tired of sliding back in the muck and you know you're ready for a coach to hold you in the most loving space possible while also keeping you accountable so you can transcend all of the funk for good text "I'm ready" to 815-893-9590 and we'll connect.
MY NAME IS ERIN RYAN AND I HELP MILLIONS OF PEOPLE OVERCOME AND DISSOLVE ALL BARRIERS TO LIVING A LIFE FULL OF UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. THIS IS WHO I AM.
